Dear Diane Column — May 14, 2012

Dear Diane, 

Do you think past lives are valid? I have a feeling that I lived in ancient China. I saw a museum exhibit that had tools and things from every period in history, and when I saw some from around two to three thousand years ago, I wanted to pick them up like they were mine. There are a lot of things that I just “know” about life back then, and I have a feeling that I was a man and had a very happy life. How do I know if this is real? Are there ways of exploring this? I’ve heard about hypnosis, but I’m scared I might go back to a life that’s not so happy. Thank You.


Dear Debra, 

I do feel that knowledge of past lives exists.  I have also encountered situations where the most likely explanation was a past life.

I’m glad that you mentioned hypnoses, as it’s a wonderful tool for exploring past life recall. Just make certain that you find someone who is experienced in this area. A qualified hypnotherapist should be able to provide references, and you should feel free to ask questions. Go with your gut instinct. A good therapist will not allow negative situations to adversely affect you, as they will be prepared with suggestions to experience certain events without trauma.

There are other ways to explore your past incarnations too. Think about the type of clothing you are attracted to. You may find that a love for rich brocades and velvets is linked to having worn them in the past. I have a friend who walks barefoot every chance he gets, and feels that he had a previous life as a tribal leader in Africa.

Fear is something that can also give you a clue to another time. I have always feared choking and drowning, and suspect that I am remembering something that occurred long ago. Not all fears seem rational in relation to the current lifetime. A fear of heights or air travel could point to a previous cause of death.

My friend Loretta was born in Ohio, but loves all things Indian, from food to clothing to décor. As a child she asked her mother to make red curry for her birthday, while most children ask for chicken nuggets! A past life in India would be one explanation.

Exploring your likes and dislikes can tell you a lot. If there is no logical link to the present life, perhaps you have discovered a puzzle piece from the past. Have fun!


Dear Diane,

About a year ago, I met a man on the internet who lives in another state. We hit it off immediately, and I went to visit him. He in turn came to see me and admitted that he was falling for me. He said that he wanted to be with me, but that he was in a separation from his wife and needed time to get through the divorce process. He said he never meant to feel this way so soon after leaving his wife. He promised to get back in touch with me as soon as he dealt with custody issues. It has been over nine months and I am going crazy. I’m in love with this man and I know we’re supposed to be together. What can you tell me about when he will call? If it isn’t soon, I don’t know what I’ll do.

In Love

Dear In Love,

Romance is tricky, and an out of state romance with a married man is next to impossible. I pick up that this man is still married and he and his wife are in counseling. He should have been honest from the first communication, but at least he’s now trying to stay away from you unless he’s available. While I don’t wish to predict the outcome of their marriage, I can tell you that I see them working on things together for at least the next two years.

The promise of future romance is enticing, but right now you have no promise. Please know that if something is meant to be, nothing can keep it from happening. The truth is that you don’t know everything about this man, and much of the way you feel is fantasy.  It’s time to be open to other possibilities, as you deserve someone who is available to love you.

Let all of your friends know that you are willing to date. I feel you meeting someone with an “A” initial, like an Andy or Alex. Have fun, and live in the present. I see happy times ahead!


Dear Diane,

I’m recently divorced and I’m really confused about what kind of car to buy. I’m short on cash, but I was hoping to get something fairly new. My friend told me that a new car is a better deal, because it will come with a warranty. My boyfriend says he can help me find a good used car. Which way is best? What kind of car do you see me getting? How do I avoid being taken advantage of? Do you see me getting this soon? Should I take out a loan? This is a big deal for me, as I need something reliable.

Auto Diva

Dear Diva,

I see you getting a nice used car, and I feel you getting it within the next sixty days. As for being taken advantage of, it’s important to have a mechanic certify a car before you purchase it. Your boyfriend can be helpful in asking the right questions, but in the end the decision is yours.

I see a light colored car, about two or three years old, and the owner is a female who is leaving the state.  Think about what is most important to you, so you will know what to search for. I see you driving this car for many years to come.


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