Dear Diane — March 26, 2011

Dear Diane,

As a single woman, I try and keep my spirits up about the future, but I wonder if anyone will ever love me. I know I’m a bit different, in that I like old fashioned ways of thinking. I feel that a lady should dress like one, and that a man should open a door and pull out a chair. I think I’m out of step with the way things are, and I wonder if I should have been born a hundred years or so ago. I work in a bank, and I never seem to have luck socially meeting men. I tried church, and I found that most of the men my age are married. Is there a chance of me meeting anyone? Will I be alone forever?

Charlotte, 9-4-67

Dear Charlotte,

I feel for you, as so many souls are looking for someone to love right now. You say that you are “different” in your thinking, but I see you as being an interesting person. While longing for the safety of a simpler time, you still have the courage to reach out to a psychic and ask for help. Don’t apologize for being an independent thinker. Knowing what you want is the first step in getting it.
My first suggestion is to talk to friends you trust. Ask them to give you an honest appraisal of your style of relating to the opposite sex. Make it clear that you are open to meeting new people, and stay open to any invitations.
While the computer age has changed the rules a bit, you can still use this to your advantage. Think of the many things you enjoy, from reading to church to theater. If your favorite author is Charles Dickens, that will tell potential friends a lot about you. The important thing is to present a well rounded picture of who you are and what you enjoy, letting yourself shine through. There are dating sites out there geared more towards true courtship, and these are the ones you should explore. Anywhere you search, you run the risk of meeting people with questionable intentions. If you don’t trust your own judgment, ask a friend to look for “red flags.” Somewhere, Charlotte, is a man looking for you, so let’s make certain he can find you! Get started now, and enjoy some romance.


Dear Diane,

My husband’s mom had a stroke last year, and has had problems with mobility. He wants to move her into our spare bedroom, but I’m terrified of becoming a full time nurse to her. We have a teenaged daughter at home, and my husband and I both work long hours. I don’t want to be cruel, but the idea of having to do this is making me cringe. I can’t imagine working all day and coming home to such a burden. Is there any way around this?


Dear T.A.,

Your husband wants to do right by his mother, and in his mind, this is the right thing to do. Sit down with him and make a list of the duties which will need to be performed. If changing diapers or linens is required, make certain he understands these duties, then divide them between the two of you. This should quickly illustrate to him the degree of commitment you are willing to take on. It will also challenge him to think about the logistics of such a job.
Your husband is to be commended for his responsible nature, as should you. Realistically, you will need to hire some help, and this is a decision you should make together. You will not regret having helped your husband to honor his mother. I see a long happy marriage in the future!


Dear Diane,

My reunion is coming up, and I keep thinking about Paul, this man that I went to school with. We never dated, but he was a good friend. I heard through the grapevine that he is divorced. Do you see the two of us getting together as a couple?


Dear Paula, 
While connecting with old friends can be fun, it doesn’t always lead to romance. I’m sensing that you and Paul had better chemistry as friends than lovers, and little has changed. Enjoy getting to know him again, and value how special a friend he can be.
I pick up a new man in your life by the end of the year, and I pick up the initial “D.” Good luck!


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